I'm a proponent of human chemistry, deeming it a key ingredient for any healthy relationship. If you've ever experienced that famous feeling we tag as chemistry, you know it's a tingly and powerful emotion. Chemistry is the undeniable current of electricity between two people; it creates a spark that identifies a connection between them. Chemistry can bond people emotionally, intellectually, or romantically. You're incredibly blessed if you can find all three forms in one person.
Sometimes, people can misinterpret friendliness for chemistry. At the risk of sounding arrogant, I'll label myself as friendly to make my next point. On more than one occasion, boys have mistaken my friendship bracelets for commitment rings. My fellow females can relate to this sticky situation and know that it only goes sour if not handled with care. It's always safe to apologise for leading someone on and politely tell them you don't feel that way about them. There's no room for confusion, and you're actually assuming some responsibility for accidentally captivating him with your charming personality.
It annoys me when a person freaks out because someone is interested in them. Girls who cannot handle attention do not deserve it. Take it easy, sister. He is just asking you out to lunch, not proposing marriage. A socially intelligent girl will convert a romance mix-up into a pleasant friendship. If the guy is truly unbearable, she should just file him under the "not my type" category rather than damaging his reputation by sharing the "bad pick-up" story with others. Above all, we should remain civil. Whether or not we have chemistry with someone, they still deserve acknowledgment and respect.
Wednesday, 9 July 2008
spark
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Friends,
Relationships
6 comments:
I miss the feeling of chemistry. I always used to know when I was going to fall for someone because I often felt that instant spark. I'm lucky enough that it's been reciprocated.
When it starts off the other way round, I ashamedly admit that I'm one who does the avoidance thing to avoid the awkwardness most of the time, unless I find the friendship is definitely worth keeping. I don't trust random strangers, be it a coffee or a marriage proposal.
Obviously, we're not expected to go out on a coffee date with a total stranger. my point is, when someone shows an interest, we should be flattered and if the feeling is not mutual, we should communicate that clearly to them. I've heard of stories where someone agrees to go on a lunch date then cancels on the day, and ignoring the other person’s attempts of making contact. I don't think it's fair to shun people, at least tell them that you don't want anything to do with them. Ignoring them is cruel. It would drive anyone insane and the desperation to be heard (to justify the situation) would cause a person to bombard the other person with missed calls, emails, text messages... such is the mark of a stalker.
I don't mind being stalked, I think it's the most subtle form of flattery.
Just don't touch me.
but stalkers generally have a 2-meter rule, don't they?
Just kidding :)
(e-stalking is acceptable).
True. Not replying to contact is just rude. Even if it's a just an explanation for the lack of contact, at least give the other person peace of mind they're being heard.
eww i am the type to be extremely repulsed by interest.
unless i am also interested.. in which case i do a runner (away from person of interest) and it's a case of if they can catch me (although this is not done in a hard to get way, just in a oh my gosh grosssss way. yeah, i have issues.
luckily ali had speedy legs.
The thing you gotta keep in mind is that not everyone is assertive and not everyone is 'socially intelligent'. The easier option is sometimes to ignore. In saying that though, there's still no excuses for rudeness..
hahaha Ali understands your issues, Kat.
Oh, poor Chad, the stud muffin. constantly chased by girls (bus stop mel)... =Þ
yep, it's acceptable if you're shy, but to tell the story to your friends (in disgust) and damage someone else's reputation is unacceptable. don't people know that the community is really small... whatever we say will get back to the other person. if you have something to say, say it to their face. not ignore them and bad mouth them behind their back.
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