It's natural to have problems in a relationship. Everyone agrees that the best time is the beginning, the Honeymoon period - when everything is still a mystery, exciting, and problem-free. But after a while, being around one person long enough means they will inevitably annoy you at some stage.
When you think about it, the problems are caused by the people involved. They don't just appear out of nowhere. Often, those so-called problems are just trivial issues we create to add drama to our lives. A small problem, if encouraged, will grow into a bigger one. Sometimes people should just shut up. Talking too much can create new issues. When I was in a relationship, I wish I had said, "Can we just drop it, please?" Letting go of petty problems would prevent them from multiplying into long-term issues. It would be so simple if we could just close that bad chapter and start fresh.
That's why I love reading novels or watching movies - they let me escape into a different world. If things get too much, I can close the book or turn off the movie and return to my own life. I'm not into suspense or overly dramatic movies. They make me feel an unrealistic burden, and sometimes I just fast-forward to the calm parts. Why let it stir me up? I prefer comedies or chick flicks because I want to be entertained and laugh. Sorry if that doesn't make me "deep."
Life isn't a book or a movie. You can't slam it shut or fast-forward through the rough parts. Time waits for no one. We live every day without realizing that life is the longest thing we'll ever know. I have many regrets because I've made a lot of mistakes that I can never go back and fix. This doesn't stop me from making new mistakes, though. Maybe I'm trying to test my limits. Even though I'm not in a relationship anymore, I still have issues with him. After every unnecessary battle we have, I'm left to pick up the pieces. Each fight stains our relationship more, and it's harder to wash away the dirty marks.
When I try to clean things up, I often make them worse, and everything becomes more blurred over time. It used to be easy to kiss and make up, but when you're not a couple, there's no obligation to compromise. It's easier to let go when you're uncommitted.
After surviving yet another world war, I've promised to be civilized. People should learn to control themselves during conflicts with their significant others. Things may seem bleak now, but we can't predict the future. We may get back together someday, or we may not. Either way, it's healthier to let go of a faltering relationship while there's still some caring left. If I play it out to the bitter end and sabotage our friendship anymore, he may end up hating me and shutting the door on any future relationship. Bowing out graciously leaves room for a future connection, even if it's just as good friends.